​I learnt this in a fascinating talk by Jamil Qureshi on a recent seminar organized by Simon Lewis.

Confidence is like a muscle. The more you exercise it, the stronger it gets.

If you struggle at something, such as public speaking, one of the most common fears – the first time you may hate it and worry about failing. If you did it three times a week for a year, you’d be better and feel more confident.

We learn the most at 1-3 years of age because we’re not embarrassed about failure. Playing catch we’ll drop the ball more often than we catch it. But we’ll keep on trying, treating it like a game. There’s no embarrassment to fail, we celebrate the catch and learn as we do so.

FAIL should stand for From Action I Learn. You may fail at first – but reframe failure. Get better by doubling the rate of failure.

“What would you do if you could not fail?” – This was embossed on a steel, sharp and heavy paperweight my Dad had on his desk a I was growing up. I still think of it today.