โHad a great chat with someone last week. And what came up couple times and stuck with me is the idea of โ๐๐ฆ๐ต๐ต๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ช๐ต ๐จ๐ฐโ. We are so often told to just Let it go, Move on, etc. But is this really going to help us.. letting it go? ๐๐ฏ๐ฅ, ๐จ๐ฐ ๐ธ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ฆ? ๐ค
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Often things donโt go according to our plan, something unpredictable happens, out of our control -can be a lay off, a bad break up, losing something or even someone.
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Got me thinking of the actual meaning of โLet it goโ - I believe that phrase can lead us into the trap of ๐๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐จ ๐๐ฏ๐จ๐ข๐๐๐ง๐๐ ๐จ๐ซ ๐๐ฏ๐๐ง ๐๐๐ง๐ข๐๐ฅ, blocking things off, disconnecting and โletting it goโ by not fully digesting it. ๐๐ถ๐ต ๐ช๐ต ๐ด๐ต๐ช๐ญ๐ญ ๐ด๐ต๐ข๐บ๐ด ๐ธ๐ช๐ต๐ฉ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ, ๐ช๐ต ๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ฆ๐ด ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต ๐จ๐ฐ ๐ข๐ฏ๐บ๐ธ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ฆ, ๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ฆ๐ด ๐ช๐ต?!
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I think more helpful is replacing the โLet it goโ with โLet it beโ- that has much more meaning when you actually stay with what happened and process it, understand what it meant to you, accept that most likely it was out of your control, see the silver lining... maybe it can even be a catalyst for a change you needed for a long time, and this list continues. Accept and embrace it.
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๐๐จ๐งโ๐ญ ๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐ข๐ฌ๐๐จ๐ง๐ง๐๐๐ญ, ๐๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ข๐ญ & ๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐.
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Let it be part of your experience, ๐ฅ๐๐ญ ๐ข๐ญ ๐๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐ญ ๐จ๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ. Whatever happened has shaped you or will shape you one way or another. You can not erase it.
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I remember Sheryl Sandberg saying in her book โ๐ถ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ฉโ to โ๐ฅ๐๐๐ง ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐จ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐๐คโ - I think this is exactly what she meant. No matter how sucky the situation is now, stay with it for a while, donโt fight it, don't numb it.
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What if we make a small shift and โจ ๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐ โจ (๐ฑ๐ข๐ณ๐ต ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ถ๐ด instead. ๐๐ต ๐ช๐ด ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ช๐ต ๐ธ๐ช๐ญ๐ญ ๐ข๐ฏ๐บ๐ธ๐ข๐บ๐ด, ๐ธ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ณ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ต ๐ช๐ต ๐ฐ๐ณ ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต)
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I think this is the place where growth starts. ๐น
